Well, only 2 weeks to go till Kathy, my nurse, and I head back to El paso Tx to see the surgeon about my hip. Not sure what he will say. And, to tell you the truth, it just don't matter. I thought the last time I went that he would say I could start walking. He didn't. So I have decided in my mind, that it don't matter what he says, I'm going to be ok with it. If he says another 6 weeks in this wheel chair, then, it's 6 more weeks. That's it. End of discussion. No more complaining to you folks about how bad I have it. It's just part of the price you pay when you work with horses that need help.
It's a lot like me asking, or telling my clients that they really need to work on a skill for at least 2 weeks before they start to ride. I'm not saying it to make them mad or hurt their feelings, or keep them from doing something fun. I'm saying it cause I want them to be safe.
That brings me to another deal. I see folks ask questions about this or that and, rather then get the advice from one of the fine trainers that live in this state. The state of NM,, they post some long winded expiation from someone they have never met before, but because they are in some magazine or have a tv show or have something to sell you, somehow they know more about the subject then the trainer that lives right up the street.
I agree. You need to check out the trainer, and you're going to want to make sure you kinda see eye to eye on things. But, I can think of at least 5 really good horseman who live in this fine State that would be happy to answer any question you may have about your horse/mule without trying to sell you something in a magazine. Now if they happen to be in a magazine that's great too. But its not a gage of a horseman to me. I happen to know some of those folks and I promise you, they are no better then one of your own home grown horseman. So rather then spending your money outside the state or outside the great horseman that live in your state why not try a local guy or gal. You can always ask for your money back.
As a matter of fact, this horseman offers you a money back guarantee . If you are not completely satisfied with the work I do for and with your horse. I will give you all your money back. Period!
Feels good to get back to horses.
I have some new friends that are off on a big ride. By big I mean a lot of people. I wish them the best. Sometimes there is not always safety in numbers, but I know some of the folks thing the lead on this ride and they are in good hands. Have fun.
So I've go a couple more weeks on old iron side, but he's been good to me so far. Let's talk more about horses and what we need to do or what questions you may have then how bad I feel.
Yep, 3 weeks to go till I go to the surgeon again for him to x-ray and tell me if I can start to walk. This has been one of the toughest things I have ever done in my life. It would have been so much harder if it was not for the sweet thing you see in the picture above. She waits on me hand and foot without complaint and grumbles at me if I don't ask her for help. As many of you know, she has her own set of health issues which she will go to the doctor today for. But, does not want to leave me at home alone. I know that those of you who know her, think you know her. She is so much more then most of you will ever know. I am honored to get to call her my friend, my lover, my wife.
I seem to cry a lot more lately. I have no idea why, but she seems to, and she understands and holds me when I need it. I'm not telling any of you these things because I want your sympathy or pity. I'm trying to share something that I never thought would happen to me so, if it happens to you, it won't freak the hell out of ya. I am getting depressed a little more each day it seems. Kathy is helping me thru it and I'll be fine. Your kind words all help, but I'm not asking you to send more. You all have lives and families that need you, probably more then you know. I guess I'm just trying, poorly, to express how much this woman means to me. I never knew how much I needed her. Thought I could get thru this on my own. I can't. And I thank Jehovah everyday for her love her support and most of all her friendship. I hope that you have someone like that in your life. And if you don't, that they show up one day. I believe they will. Just be, like everyone is telling me, patient.
Coffee is not going to do it today!
4 more weeks till I get to the surgeon in El Paso Tx. I'm hoping that he will let me start walking. I have not been up on my feet sense Feb. 12th. I've had some friends who have been in my boots in the passed and they tell me its not going to be easy. So, all thou I can't wait to get started walking, I'm a little nervous about the process.
Everyone says I'm going to be fine and I'll be back in the saddle before I know it. But, at times, it sure don't feel like it.
My full time Nurse, Kathy, works her tail off waiting on me. She has sure been a comfort. I once told her that I know she did not sign up for this. And, she will then remind me that if was "in sickness and in health I'm so proud of her and will never be able to match the love she has shown to me and for me..
I was invited to a closed group on FB called Mules of New Mexico. It's been pretty cool to be around Mule folks. Most of them don't know me from Adam and are all very supportive of what I'm going thru. I have also found out that I'm not the only one with horse related pains. One fella had a wreck and is waiting for his tail bone to heal. Another, came off her mule and ended up in the hospital with a concussion and stitches in her head. I feel for all of them.
We all know that it's not if but when, we are going to get hurt. One person said that it was just the price you pay for being around horses, or mules for that matter. And altho I agree, I think we can all do more to prepare our horse or mules for things that are going to happen to them in our world. In the 13 years I have been starting colts, or working with horses, for money, that have had problems, including bucking, I have never had a horse offer to buck with me, let alone get bucked off. Now having said that, I have had my own horses buck with me. But I bought those horses knowing that they bucked. That's how I got them cheep. But bucking is a very easy problem to solve.
It's been really good to hear people talk about their issues they are having with their horses/mules and how they are handling those problems or issues. I think that sharing these things with other horse/mule owners can help them to avoid the same issues with their own animals. However, one thing I have noticed is often times folks will get into and argument about how to do things. To me, that's a lot like someone telling you how to raise your kids. To offer a suggestion is one thing, to stand toe to toe, or in this case, type to type, and argue that their way is the best way. Or, to belittle a suggestion, makes no sense to me. And, is of very little help to any horse owner. I know it's going to happen. Seems like is it our human nature to fight for what a person thinks is right but it has very little value, as far as trying to help or, give others ideas that perhaps they have never heard of or tried.
There are a lot of ways to get things done with a horse/mule. I have a way. That's what I tell my students and clients. It's not the only way but, it has worked really well for me. And, turns out, it has worked really well for people I have worked with. I'm sitting in a wheel chair right now, because I did not follow my way, to the letter. It has cost me, or will by the time this is over, 3-4 months of pain pills and shots in my stomach twice a day and this damn wheel chair.
I want for all of us to be riding when we are in our 90's, The Lord willing. And in order to do that we all need to find "The Way", so that we can minimize accidents like the ones I've talked about of others, and myself. "The Way" may turn out to be a little different then "The Way" I teach, but it's out there. And, you will find it among folks who really care about their animals. You won't find it around people that think they know it all. But you can learn a lot by asking other with more experience then you. You can also learn a ton from people that think they know everything. You can learn what NOT to do.
Ive been doing this a long time. Many of you have done it much longer then I. If you will talk to others who have experience . Have an open mind about how they are doing things. I know you will find "A Way" that will work for you and your horse/mule. And, it will help keep you safe. Things happen. Often time when you have little or no control. But, if we take our time, really try to under stand how the horse/mule feels about the whole deal, you will save yourself a lot of pain and broken bones.
I get down, a lot, in this chair. This blog helps me get rid of some of that depression. I don't want this for anyone, ever. So, please, take your time. See things from the horse's/ mule's point of view. Get help if you need it. That help may save your butt.
I teach 3 principles of horsemanship: Intuition, Control, Trust! I'll talk more about them this week perhaps. And show you how, using these principles, can really help your horse, and, keep you safe.
The big count down has begun. As of today I have 5 weeks before I go back to the surgeon for more X-rays and to see if he will let me start walking. My physical therapist has stopped her visits out to see me cause there is really not much she can do to help me till its time to walk. So, for me, the long wait continues. I promise to stay off my feet and do as the doc says but it's sure ain't easy.
Kathy and I had some visitors out to the ranch over the weekend. One of our neighbors Mike, who flies for FedX, spent the weekend with us and helped Kathy get wood up to the house and install some outside lighting for us. We had not seen him in a long time so was a treat.
Some friends from town came out too. Steve and his wife Janie came out Sunday. Steve brought his guitar out and Kathy and I enjoyed doing some picking with him. We even talked about getting the picking circle going again. So, we'll see how that all goes. Would be fun to do it again.
Some friends from T or C town came out too and spent some time with us. We sure do appreciate the visits. Sense I can't get into town it's nice to have friends stop by. Stopping by is a bit of a deal at that. It's not the end of the earth but you can sure see it from here.
Kathy continues to put up with me and take care of me. She is the best nurse a guy could have.
The picture above is of a full blooded Morgan horse I've had for a couple years. His name is Zeb. I got him cause he bucked off a fella that was riding him for someone else. The story is he start to stick the spurs to him and Zeb had, had enough of that. I need to find Zeb a home. He is 14 now I think. He is a good minded horse but will need the help of someone who has experience and is willing to go slow with him. He has come a long way while here. I have ridden him a few times in the arena without issue. He is a little nervous but I think the right person could really help him out. If you're interested just send me an email to mackie@@mackieredd.com. If you want more pictures just let me know.
I want to thank all of you out there for you kind words and support. It means a lot to Kathy and I.
Will try and keep you updated with info on what the heck I'm doing with horses and music.