Sherry and Shelby
I have been thinking all weekend why it is that at most clinics, mine included, you only seem to see women. I have a clinic coming up the first Saturday in Aug. and only women will be involved. The invitation when out to men as well but only women signed up. I think that we men, at times, have a hard time with direction, not giving it, but taking it. Having said that you may remember the round pen demo that I did for the Back Country Horseman Club. There was a fella there that questioned why I was doing things the way I was doing them. He told me that if it was his horse he would do it like this or like that. Well, anyway, I heard later that he was asked how he liked the demo and if he learned anything. He said he had enjoyed it very much and had learned a little about being patient. When I heard that I just about fell off my horse. It is not often that you will find men that will admit to learning anything, and even rarer to find a man that will admit that to a woman.
I think that we as men have been programed, by our society, to have all the answers. Our job is to fix whatever the problem is and if we don't have the answer to fix the problem the last thing you want to do is tell somebody that. So we act like we have it all figured out. I think we do this, not only with our horses, but also with our wives, children, dog and cats. I don't have any idea how to fix that problem in us, men, but I think that clinics can be a good start. Most clinics are conducted by men. There are some women but mostly men. So at least there is someone there that thinks like we do. I know this, that when you can get a man to understand that it's not about him, but about his horse, wonderful things can happen. Not only in his relationship with his horse but in other parts of his life.
I use to be unsure about getting help with my horsemanship. Felt that folks would think I didn't know what I was doing if I had to go and get help from someone else. But I realized that no one, not one horseman, on this planet, figured these things out by themselves. They all had someone or a bunch of someones, that shared what they knew with them. So I hope to see more men out there working on their horsemanship. I'm not sure it will happen in my life time, but I'm hoping.
Will try and keep you updated with info on what the heck I'm doing with horses and music.